The Funeral Service

A funeral ceremony helps to publicly acknowledge the reality of the death, and when shared with friends and family it encourages the expression of grief.

Preparing for

The service

Spending Time With Your Loved One

Prior to the funeral service, some family members of find it helps to spend time with their loved one and like to bring small gifts or a photograph to put on or in the coffin or casket. It’s a personal choice and we can talk about this and guide you through the steps.

Phone Call Prior To Service

Our funeral staff will contact you the day prior to service to confirm details and key timings. This communication is essential and aims to provide you with the reassurance that we have catered for and provide you with an opportunity to deliver any final instructions.

Preparing for

The service

Spending Time With Your Loved One

Prior to the funeral service, some family members of find it helps to spend time with their loved one and like to bring small gifts or a photograph to put on or in the coffin or casket. It’s a personal choice and we can talk about this and guide you through the steps.

Phone Call Prior To Service

Our funeral staff will contact you the day prior to service to confirm details and key timings. This communication is essential and aims to provide you with the reassurance that we have catered for and provide you with an opportunity to deliver any final instructions.

Your Funeral Director

It’s a good idea to choose a funeral service provider, like Max Perrams, to ease the burden and uncertainty surrounding funeral arrangements.

Come Prepared

Bring tissues, extra water, snacks, and anything else that might help you keep up your strength for the day ahead.

When to Arrive

Depending on whether you are having a viewing, visitors may begin arriving 30 minutes before the service starts. You are welcome to arrive before visitors if you would like to join our staff in greeting attendees.

Where to Sit

Family members typically sit in a reserved area during a funeral service, often in the front rows of the available seating. Visitors arriving, who may need assistance, will be directed to appropriate seats by our staff.

Transportation

If your service includes a burial at a cemetery, you will need to take some transportation from the service venue to the cemetery. If you’ve arranged transport with your funeral director, they will guide you to your vehicle after the service. 

At the Cemetery

When you arrive at the cemetery, everything is typically set up for you. Again, seating is generally reserved for family and the elderly.Once the funeral is completed, you may leave the cemetery in your own time and depending on your plans, you may go from the cemetery to an after-funeral gathering.

Writing

A Eulogy

A eulogy is often seen as one of, if not the most important part of the service, they can be intimidating to write. When writing a eulogy you should always be honest and authentic about the person. You can approach the eulogy in a purely chronological way, that is a recounting of the life of the person from birth to death, however many people prefer to deliver a characterisation of the person, or an overall picture using anecdotes or stories about fond moments.

Eulogies are different for everyone, but here are some points to keep in mind when writing one:

  • How did you first meet and become close? Think of their achievements and their community involvements.
  • What did you love and admire about the person?
  • What did they do that made you smile – did they have a good sense of humour?
  • Did they travel or love being in nature? Maybe they disliked both.
  • Think of their family, work colleagues and friends. What did they like or dislike?
  • What was their favourite time of day or TV show?
  • How will this person be remembered?
  • What will you miss most?

Writing

A Eulogy

Funerals serve to gather family and friends to celebrate a person’s life and while a eulogy is often seen as one of, if not the most important part of the service, they can be intimidating to write.

The most important thing to remember when writing a eulogy is that you should always be honest and authentic about the person. You can approach the eulogy in a purely chronological way, that is a recounting of the life of the person from birth to death, however many people prefer to deliver a characterisation of the person, or an overall picture using anecdotes or stories about fond moments.

Eulogies are different for everyone, but here are some points to keep in mind when writing one:

  • How did you first meet and become close? Think of their achievements and their community involvements.
  • What did you love and admire about the person?
  • What did they do that made you smile – did they have a good sense of humour?
  • Did they travel or love being in nature? Maybe they disliked both.
  • Think of their family, work colleagues and friends. What did they like or dislike?
  • What was their favourite time of day or TV show?
  • How will this person be remembered?
  • What will you miss most?