Funerals serve to gather family and friends to celebrate a person’s life and while a eulogy is often seen as one of, if not the most important part of the service, they can be intimidating to write.
The most important thing to remember when writing a eulogy is that you should always be honest and authentic about the person. You can approach the eulogy in a purely chronological way, that is a recounting of the life of the person from birth to death, however many people prefer to deliver a characterisation of the person, or an overall picture using anecdotes or stories about fond moments.
Eulogies are different for everyone, but here are some points to keep in mind when writing one:
- How did you first meet and become close? Think of their achievements and their community involvements.
- What did you love and admire about the person?
- What did they do that made you smile – did they have a good sense of humour?
- Did they travel or love being in nature? Maybe they disliked both.
- Think of their family, work colleagues and friends. What did they like or dislike?
- What was their favourite time of day or TV show?
- How will this person be remembered?
- What will you miss most?